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...Say "Chiz"

Friday, July 27, 2007
How To Be A Better Partner
by baw-waw de aLmasen
If you have ever been in a relationship that failed, you most likely have sat down afterwards and wondered what went wrong. Sometimes it is easy to spot how much of it was their fault but it is not too easy to look at where you, personally, went wrong. Everybody wants to be the best at what they do, and being the best you can be for your partner is no exception. Listed below are 12 simple lessons that will help you to achieve that goal. Remember, if you want to be good to someone else, you also have to be good to yourself.
1.Be romantic. Whenever a relationship starts to fail, the lack of romance is one of the first indicators. It is very natural for people to get complacent and forget the fun things they used to do when they first got together. A relationship has to be constantly worked on and being romantic is an absolute must. If you would like some more information on how to bring the romance back in to your relationship, please take a look at some of the articles in the <http://lovingyou.com/romance101/tools/> Romance Guide.
2.Never disparage yourself. Whenever you are disparaging yourself, you are basically saying that you are no good for your partner. If you don't believe that you are good enough for them, then you won't be. It's as simple as that. Don't sit around and beat yourself up over past mistakes, that will only prevent you from trying and succeeding at new things tomorrow.
3.Always be honest. There is not one single relationship that will succeed in the long run if built on a lie. Even if your partner never finds out the truth, the fact that you know you lied will affect your feelings for yourself and your partner. With that kind of a hindrance, the relationship will never reach it's full potential.
4.Do not do things just to keep your partner happy. How many times have you done something for or to your partner that you really did not want to do, just to make them happy? How did it make you feel? Every time you compromise yourself in that way, a piece of your love for them dies. It is much better to explain to them that you don't feel good about certain things and work on an alternative together.
5.Do not ask your partner to do things you know they don't want to do. This is the reverse of the above lesson and fairly self-explanatory. If you know they really don't like doing something, and if that something is for you and of no benefit to them, then why ask them to do it unless you are being selfish or mean?
6.Do not belittle your partner. Everyone makes mistakes in life and everyone works or catches on at different speeds. If you spend your time nagging at your partner or putting them down about every little thing they do wrong, then how can you expect them to do anything right? Do you want a life-partner or a puppy dog?
7.Do not put off things you have promised to do. Trust is an important part of any relationship and it needs to be developed. If you say you are going to do something and don't, then how can your partner rely on you in the future?
8.Always be there for your partner. Nothing is more important in your life than your partner. Friends come and go, as do children, but your partner is with you for the whole journey. If they are in trouble or need you, nothing else matters, other than to be there for them.
9.Communicate. Things change in a relationship almost on a daily basis. If you don't talk to your partner you could very easily wake up one day and find that you have drifted too far apart to bridge the gap. Related Article: http://www.lovingyou.com/articles/self/communication.shtml> How To Communicate With Your Love
10.Do not commit adultery or other harmful acts against your relationship. This one is really self-explanatory. Nothing destroys a relationship faster than infidelity or wrong doings. Related Article: <http://www.lovingyou.com/articles/self/ethics.shtml> Ethics In Love
11.Treat your partner with respect. It is extremely easy to take someone for granted and once you start to cross that line, it is very difficult to go back. Be careful not to treat your partner worse than you would treat your best friend. Related Article: <http://www.lovingyou.com/articles/marriage/marriagemanners.shtml> Marriage Manners
12.Be open and receptive to your partner's wants and wishes. It takes two people to have a relationship and when you shut one of them out because you are not open to their ideas and wishes then you really don't have a relationship at all. Always be open and receptive to what they say. Also, be open to new experiences and ideas, you never know what you might learn.
Monday, July 23, 2007
Sky-scraping Monday morning
Sunday, July 15, 2007
Friday, July 13, 2007
A pretty cool day...
A simple text (elais?) woke me up early in the morning. And it brought a big smile on my face, I guess, until wee hours, till the time I lay down to bed. Thanks for the effort of visiting me She although it’s raining outside and I know you hate that season…It sooooo sweeeet, really! And, of course, thanks for the “free meal.” At syempre sa kwento at bonding together. J At ang pinaka hindi ko makakalimutan about Shenok every time we’re together is when he asks me “kung may payong and hanky daw ba ako?” At dapat meron kase nagagalit sya saken. It should always be in my carry-all bag ha ha ha dahil kung hindi may buntal ako! Ehehehe “Kase BABAE DAW AKO!” Ang sweet no?
Monday, July 02, 2007
Texting scenario
Thursday, June 28, 2007
Silence can heal or hurt
It should come as no surprise, therefore, if couples rush off to the altar. Almost always, however, after the wedding there is a return to earth. Love still burns brightly, but the everyday stresses and the emerging issues and conflicts have a way of dissipating many of those intoxicating good feelings.
The high level of communicating may drop a few notches. There may even be moments when the beloved sinks into silence and is unwilling to talk. When this happens, there is disappointment and perhaps even anger on the part of the partner.
What do you do when faced with a loved one who retreats into his/her shell and refuses to come out?
Sometimes it is best to do nothing, at least for a while. It might be better to allow the beloved to look into his heart and try to sort out his feelings and his thoughts. Deep silence can be a sign of confusion and inner conflict as well as sadness and anger. Many times the silent one cannot tell you what he is feeling because he is so upset or confused that he cannot get his thoughts organized enough to enunciate them to you.
Emmy and I do this. When either of us goes into the silent mode, the other gives time and space. Time to introspect and enough space to show respect for the beloved.
All of us have moments when we get lost in deep thinking. Some of this thinking can be very personal and private even if is not threatening to the relationship. For example, one might have some serious doubts about God but is unwilling to talk about them because he is still checking them out.
If, however, in your judgment, your beloved has been given enough time, then you should make an approach and ask him what is troubling him. Your method of approaching him will make all the difference. If you are gentle and make the emotional environment safe, the chances of him opening up are high. If you are aggressive and already judgmental, then he might do one of two things. He might retreat even further into silence or he may choose to lie to you.
Choosing the right time is also vital. Patience can make a big difference. Some partners cannot wait and drive a wedge deeper between themselves and their partners. If you choose the right time, your chances are much better.
Choosing an intimate moment when there are few distractions and where you can focus on the matter at hand is important. It is truly amazing how effective you can be if only you carefully choose the right time and the right place to approach a silent partner.
It is common knowledge that impenetrable silence is a killer of relationships. This is why it is essential that you find the ways and means to deal with silent partners if you are to keep your love vibrant and alive.
If you have problems about drugs, alcohol and behavior/attitude call my office at 820-6107 or 825-1771 or e-mail me at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box 2099 MCPO, Makati City.
[Column of Bob Aron, The Manila Times, June 29, 2007] http://www.manilatimes.net
Monday, June 25, 2007
[Excerpted from former Senator Ernesto Herrera's column, Senate Briefing, The Manila Times, June 26, 2007] http://www.manilatimes.net/
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Traumatic experience :'(
But the whole stay at the hospital really traumatized me and my ate when my inay’s blood pressure doesn’t turn up at the normal level—either high blood (240 over 200) or low blood (the figure doctor never informed us, as in low blood sya). That’s the time she experienced a pangingisay [cadaveric spasm]. Her eyes turned all white. The doctor said her blood all went down to her feet and had none on the upper body. Sobrang naiyak ako at ang ate ko kase akala ko ano na mangyayari and the thought na kami lang dalawa ang nagbabantay sa kanya. My ate rushed at the nurse station to call for help, gladly they were.
I lost my tatay exactly 11 years this coming June 3 and I really cannot afford losing my inay kase sya na lang natitira sa amin. We considered her a great treasure talaga
Wednesday, April 11, 2007
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Sunday, January 28, 2007
girls, this is for you!
I was surfing the Net [i was so depressed that time :( ] then i finally ended up with this. I saw it in "Gleez" site if i remember it correctly! Tama ba?
99 facts about guyz
1. Guys don't actually look after good-looking girls. they prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys hate flirts.
3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
4. When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.
5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
7. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.
8. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.
10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them. .......dont think so
12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can't. And they have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking! but do not generalise
13. Guys cry!!!
14. Don't provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
17. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.
18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...never mind!" would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands......yeh rite - watever.
20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any excuses when you're asking him to do you a favor, he's actually saying that he doesn't like you and he can't lay down the card for you.
22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow". ......so true.
23 You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
24. Guys hate gays!
25. Guys love their moms.
26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.
28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
31. Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.
32. Guys are very open about themselves.
33. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long.
34. No guy is bad when he is courting
35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.
37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.......very true.
39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts. ........sumtimes.
42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
45. Guys think too much.
46. Guys' fantasies are unlimited.
47. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does!......very true.
48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!
49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
50. It's not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they've been together for 3 years or more.
51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.
52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he's too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won't be matured and grow up.
53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed P**** with their girlfriends.....sumtimes depends wen they want sumat.
56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he's sweating. You'll probably see that he is nervous.
57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.
58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me"......sumtimes.
59. Guys don't really have final decisions.
60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.
61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him....very important.
62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.
63. Guys believe that there's no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.
64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.
65. Guys don't like girls who punch harder than they do.
66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
67. A guy would waste his time over video games and football, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.
68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake. ....they love u regardless.
69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!......true but only wen the guys are ready 2be settled down.
70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
71. A guy's friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
72. Don't be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.
73. Don't be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you'll be surprised.
74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.
75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
76. Guys don't comprehend the statement "Get lost" too well.
77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.
78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.
79. Guys don't care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.
80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they'll realize they're wrong.
81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He's just too stubborn to deal with it.
82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.
83. Guys' weakest point is at the knee.
84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.
85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
86. When a guy looks at you, either he's amazed by you or he's criticizing you.
87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.
88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.
89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you're with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.
90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!
92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.
93. When a guy says he can't sleep if he doesn't hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.
94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.
96. Girls are allowed to touch boys' things. Not their hair!
97. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.
98. Guys hate girls who overreact. ......sumtimes.
99. Guys love you more than you love them IF they are serious in your relationships.
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
Thursday, January 11, 2007

December 2004 company party: (From left: Papa Harold, Alan Zoilo (partly hidden), Ate Lans (in an earthly-colored turtle neck long sleeve), at si She (yung skinny guy with his most-timorous grin, hehehe), Ate Salie (my college friend), Ate Maine (partly hidden in sleeveless top) Ate Mara and syempre ako, yung smallest of them all :)



















